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Hello there beloved unemployed/hates-their-job reader, and welcome to Everything You Need to Know! On this episode of EYNK, we’ll be discussing everything you need to know about applying for a job. From building a resume all the way to what underwear to wear to the interview, we have everything you need to get you ready for the job market.

Now everyone knows jobs are stressful and time-consuming – hell I’m doing mine right now – but you have to have one. How else will you buy food, shelter, and an internet connection that will let you come check your favorite website, Men’s Trait? But employers aren’t just giving them away. When it comes to applying for a job, putting in a little effort now can make you stand far above the crowd later when it finally comes time for your new boss to decide who they want to hire.

Resume, Resume, Resume

Ah, the resume, all of your life’s achievements boiled down to a single piece of paper. Having a good resume is what gets your foot in the door when applying for a job. For some people with a particularly long list of jobs, skills, and education, it can get the whole leg through. But even those who have never had work experience before can still create a professional and impressive resume.

If you’ve never made a resume before, try checking out one of these helpful sites for building a resume from scratch. Even programs like Microsoft Word come with a number of different template options for building a new resume.

Don’t worry if you don’t have enough information to fill out a whole sheet of paper, just put down what you can, and fill the rest with an “About Me” section. If you don’t necessarily have the skills for the job you’re applying for, then what you are trying to sell instead is yourself. Demonstrate how you are a quick learner, or a hard worker, or even simply mentioning that you are punctual will go a long way.

Alternatively, if you find yourself with dozens of jobs to list down the resume and no room to cram them all in, take a step back. Rather than including every job you’ve had since you were 16, just list the last three or four jobs you’ve had. Better yet, look at what type of job you’ll be applying for and then pick and choose from your past experience jobs that might have some overlapping skills.

Once you have your resume in hand, give it a once over and remember these tips:

  • If able, list your profession at the top of the page below your name. This is both an excellent way of letting employers know what type of resume they are looking at, and also shows a level of dedication to your job since you use it as part of your identity. If you are in school, put down the job you want to have or identify yourself as “Student”.
  • Be sure to talk about any skills gained or responsibilities held at previous jobs in an active voice. Instead of “Was responsible for . . .” simply put “Responsible for . . .” The active voice, while not always good English, is direct, to the point, and will make your resume stand out from others.
  • If you don’t have much experience outside fo your education, list some of the classes you’ve taken and the skills you’ve gained from them. Simply putting down that you’re a Bussiness major is much less impactful than listing that you have studied accounting, financing, and marketing principles.

Finding a Job in the Digital Age

Now that you have your master crafted resume in hand, we have to find you a place to use it. Fortunately we live in the digital age, meaning that there are literally thousands of job offers just a few clicks away. But before we start sending emails left and right, another part of living in the digital age is being digitally professional. What I’m talking about is your email address and social media accounts.

No matter how great your resume is, if the employer wants to respond to you and sees that your email address is “[email protected]” they aren’t going to hire you. Avoid the use of nicknames, slang, and vulgarity in your email. Even if it a nice address like “[email protected]” shows a degree of unprofessionalism. If this is you, create a new email for work purposes. “[email protected]” is just fine, “[email protected]” is a great way of showing your education to an employer, but best of all would be “[email protected]”. Buying your own domain name is an excellent way of investing in your own future. You can find more tips on creating a professional email address here.

In regard to social media, you’re crazy if you think that employers don’t look at your Twitter account before making a hiring decision. A recent survey shows that over 60% of employers use social media to screen job candidates, and that number is only on the rise. So what do you need to do to make sure that your social media profiles aren’t sabotaging your chances at getting a job?

  • Don’t mention illegal drugs. If that sounds obvious to you, good. But in case it wasn’t, there it is. Leave it off social media.
  • Anything sexual should also be left off of your accounts.
  • Avoid profanity.
  • Mentioning alcohol, while not viewed as negatively as drugs, can also be a cause for concern.
  • Bad spelling and grammar.

Now that we’ve cleaned up your online presence, start hitting those job sites. Indeed, Monster, CareerBuilder, and SimplyHired are all excellent sites that offer a broad range of search options to narrow down the job you’re looking for. There are also many websites that are catered specifically towards one industry, so if you are looking for a job in your field, then one of those will best serve you.  Even sites like Craigslist can be an excellent source for finding a job near you.

Remember while searching through job listings to not let any of the listed “requirement for this position” to scare you away. Even if you aren’t exactly what they are looking for, go ahead and send them your resume. Most companies are only describing their “ideal” candidate, but down here in the real world they are more than happy to work with someone who doesn’t necessarily meet their candidate wishlist. The worst that can happen when you apply for a job is receiving a polite email that says no. There is no reason not to apply for a job you are interested in.

The Interview

Oh my gosh! You did it! My little baby boy got an interview! I’m so proud of you! But now you’re facing down the last and greatest hurdle finally getting a job. The interview can make or break any job candidate, but don’t worry. You’ve made it this far, all that’s left is to seal the deal. How do you do it?

First, start studying. Once you have scheduled an interview, do some research on the company and the person performing the interview if you can. What do they do? Why are they hiring someone? What makes you the person to fill that role? Having an understanding of the company’s goals and office culture before even being hired shows that you respect them, that you are serious about this job, and that you are willing to go the extra mile when it comes to your work.

On the day of the interview itself, appearance is going to matter a lot. We may not be supposed to judge books by their cover, but we certainly judge people by them. This will be your future employers first impression of you, it is important to make it a good one. Take a shower, throw on some cologne (not too much), and make those pearly whites shine. Make your hair look professional, and if you’re considering working in the food industry, consider getting it cut short.

Now what are you going to wear? An old adage states “Dress for the job you want.” To that point, make sure that what you are wearing matches the job you’ll be applying for. You don’t always need to wear a three-piece suit. Look back at the research you’ve done on the company. Are they a very formal business? Well better bust out the suit. Are they more laid back? Then business casual is fine. When in doubt, nothing says “hire me” more than slacks, a button up shirt, and a tie.

Clothes? Check. Arrived early? Check. Okay, interview time. Are you ready for the big secret? The one piece fo advice that will let you nail any interview? Here it is . . .


That cannot be stressed enough. If you can take a few deep breaths and enter into an interview calm, secure, and confident, you will be hired. It is understandable to be nervous about an interview, but if you spend the entire time stressed out and fidgeting, your chances of getting this job are going to go downhill.

“But how am I supposed to relax? I have to get this job!”

I understand, I do, but you can’t think that way going in. People want to work with those who are calm under pressure, and there is a lot of pressure during an interview. Demonstrate that you have the essential skill of keeping a cool head, and you’ll be filling out your paperwork with HR in no time.

Here are some ways to relax during an interview:

  • Clench your butt. No, I’m serious. If you find yourself being shaky or fidgety, clench that mother. It’s almost physically impossible to have shaky hands while clenching your butt, fact.
  • Be yourself. Being your authentic, natural self comes, well, naturally. It’s much more stressful to be on your best behavior, rather than simply being comfortable in who you are.
  • Get the other person talking. If the interviewer is just asking you questions, then your “interview” has become an “interrogation”. You’ll find yourself much more relaxed if you get the discussion going both ways.

You’re Hired

And that’s Everything You Need to Know about applying for a job. While searching for a new job can be stressful, don’t let yourself be intimidated. Give the old resume a polish and send it out into the wild, soon enough you will have plenty of job offers headed your way. Just stay calm and believe in yourself. Because when it comes to job hunting, that’s what you’re selling, you. And you know better than anyone, that your best thing there ever is or ever will be. All that’s left is to convince your future employer of the very same thing.

Men's Life

What Every Man Should Know About Feminism




When I was in my last semester of college, I took a class in American History after 1950. One of the first subjects we covered was the social movements of the 1960’s. Chief among them, of course, was the birth of modern feminism. The teacher began the class by asking everyone who considered themselves a feminist to raise their hands. This being a small liberal arts school, all the girls’ hands shot straight up. I was one of only two men in the class and both of us kept our hands down. The teacher asked why the two of us didn’t consider ourselves feminists. I answered that honestly I didn’t really know anything about feminism except for images of women burning bras and complaining about being oppressed. I admit to being a little ignorant about the issue. It seemed crazy to me to hear affluent, young white women complaining about being subjected to oppression when you compared it to the African-American marchers who were having dogs sicced on them and being sprayed down with high-powered hoses. How oppressed could they be really? The answer, as I would come to learn, is that women were and continue to be discriminated against to a degree that you would find shocking if you had really taken the time to think about it. To circle back to my original point, I didn’t raise my hand because I didn’t really know much about Feminism. So what is Feminism? Is it just affluent 19 year old girls seeing the dark hand of the patriarchy everywhere, or are there some very real issues that the movement seeks to address? And why, as men, should we care?

When trying to understand Feminism, you first have to have a little empathy for how hard it has always been to be a woman. From some of the earliest days of Western cultures, women have been regarded as property more than as people. A woman had little to no say in public affairs, no legal ownership of her children, and no form of agency against an abusive husband. Though we decry how often marriages end in divorce today, the availability of divorce was once almost non-existent to women. Regardless of how abusive a woman’s husband was, once they were married she was legally unable to get away from him. It wasn’t until 1993 (looking at you Oklahoma and North Carolina) that a man raping his wife was ruled illegal in all 50 states. Before then the view of many courts was once you married a man, you had no right to not have sex with him.

For the entirety of democratic history up until the early 20th century, women had no right to cast a vote. Imagine, as a man, that you lived in a society where you were not allowed to vote because the prevailing opinion was that you couldn’t be trusted with it and your spouse already spoke for you with their vote. Anyone regrettably married to a Trump supporter will realize what a load of bullshit that is. It took years of long, hard protests and civil disobedience before the United States, which prides itself as a beacon of democracy, extended the vote to over half of its citizens. Even the right to vote didn’t ensure that women were treated on the same basis of men. Women still earned less than men, and were effectively barred from the most prestigious occupations.

Feminism is divided by a lot of scholars into three “waves”. The first was the fight for the vote, when women began to take an active voice in politics en-masse. The second wave of Feminism is the traditional 60’s Feminism that I alluded to earlier. The second wave feminists took issue with the cultural stigmas that continued to ensure that women didn’t have the same rights as men. They fought against unequal wages and legal discrimination for women. In addition, most of the theories of patriarchy and culture-based discrimination dates from this era. This movement won a number of victories in addressing the rights of a woman to work outside the home and to retain legal custody of her children in a divorce.

Third-wave Feminism is in many ways a step back from the Feminism of the 60’s. It attempted to address criticism of second wave Feminism as being too militant and excluding women of color from the movement. It came of age in the 90’s to address the increasing visibility of issues like homosexuality and non-fluid gender roles. It also is in a lot of ways a movement that says women should not be expected to assume the responsibilities traditionally associated with men if they don’t want to. Where the movement of the 60’s would say a woman should work outside the home, the third wave feminists say “it’s up to you”.

So what is Feminism? Put simply it is the belief that a person’s gender should in no way subject them to unequal treatment, either deliberate or subconscious.  It challenges traditional assumptions of a male dominated culture that leads to that unequal treatment. It’s something that everyone should embrace. So where does that leave you, my penis-swinging brother? Hopefully, right where you were. Take a minute and consider whether, what I hope is, your desire to treat everyone fairly extends to women too. Ask, on some level, whether you have been making assumptions about what a woman can or should do based on gender. If so, consider how you can correct those  attitudes. Ask yourself how you can be part of the solution to the fact that women still make 70% of what a man does for doing the same job. If you can do that, you might just find that you are a feminist too.

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Scientists Develop New Type of Cell That Could Revolutionize the Treatment of Heart Disease




Heart disease has consistently been one of the biggest killers of both men and women, with hundreds of thousands of families losing loved ones to the condition every year. But now a new study published in the journal Cell Stem Cell has identified a possible breakthrough in the treatment of heart disease, offering hope to anyone suffering from a dodgy ticker. The study was conducted by a team of researchers from the Gladstones Institutes, who have discovered a way to make a remarkable new type of cell that could help damaged hearts repair themselves.

Heart failure occurs when the heart is overworked or the supply of oxygen is too low. A sudden attack can cause the loss of huge amounts of important muscle cells known as cardiomyocytes (CMs). These CMs cannot regenerate by themselves, nor can they be replaced because transplanted heart cells tend not to survive in the patient’s body. As you can imagine, this makes the treatment of heart disease quite tricky; since heart cells can’t regenerate or be replaced, the damage is usually irreversible. “Scientists have tried for decades to treat heart failure by transplanting adult heart cells, but these cells cannot reproduce themselves, and so they do not survive in the damaged heart,” said Yu Zhang, MD, PhD, one of the lead authors of the study.

To overcome this dilemma, the team investigated the possibility of regenerating the heart using progenitors—stem cells that have already been programmed to develop into a specific type of cell. In this case, they targeted cardiovascular progenitor cells (CPCs), which are produced as the heart begins to form within the embryo. Using a revolutionary technique, the team were able to produce CPCs in the lab and halt their development so the cells remained effectively “frozen” until use. They called these lab-grown cells “induced expandable CPCs,” or ieCPCs.

Unlike adult heart cells, ieCPCs have the ability to replicate. If transplanted successfully, they could replace a patient’s damaged heart cells and possibly continue to self-repair. “Our generated ieCPCs can prolifically replicate and reliably mature into the three types of cells in the heart, which makes them a very promising potential treatment for heart failure,” said Zhang. To test this theory, the team injected some of the cells into a mouse that had suffered a heart attack. Remarkably, most of the cells transformed into functioning heart cells, generating new muscle tissue and blood vessels and improving the mouse’s overall heart function.

So what does all this mean for the treatment of heart disease? Well, it’s definitely big news. The cells used to treat the mouse were derived from skin cells, which means a patient’s own cells could potentially be used to treat their heart disease. The next step is to try and form human ieCPCs in the lab, and then follow up with human trials to see if the method is as effective. All going well, this could be a viable treatment for heart disease patients within the next few years.

Q: Is this the most important breakthrough yet in the field of heart disease research? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Copyright 2016 David Carroll

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Sex & Relationships

Is Chivalry Dead? If it is, Good Riddance

The idea that (certain) men are noble protectors comes from the eras of rigid hierarchy. From the Middle Ages to the Victorian era and later, being a woman, a child, or poor meant having almost no power, which was a feature, not a bug. A chivalrous man believed that this situation made him responsible for those who couldn’t care for themselves.



knight's helmet

If you want to get technical (and who doesn’t?!) chivalry went out of style in about the 15th century when cheaper professional armies and gunpowder replaced knights as the standard for warfare. Nevertheless, we like to hearken back to days when being a gentleman meant avoiding your lady’s seductive advances and wearing plate armor. Good times.

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Okay, I’m being facetious. Being kind and considerate to fellow humans should always be encouraged, and it can overlap with what is regarded as chivalrous behavior.

However, the idea that (certain) men are noble protectors comes from the eras of rigid hierarchy. From the Middle Ages to the Victorian era and later, being a woman, a child, or poor meant having almost no power, which was a feature, not a bug. A chivalrous man believed that this situation made him responsible for those who couldn’t care for themselves. It is honorable all things considered, but better than the relief that the person controlling your life is a decent guy is the ability to control your own person and property.

The concept of chivalry seems to exist in the hazy past, like how the 1950s were the good old days instead of the days of potential nuclear annihilation. There’s this idea that once upon a time men were gentleman, women were ladies, and various behaviors underscored a more genteel way of living. What’s left out of this daydream is all the people who don’t neatly fit into the simplistic boxes of what manhood and womanhood are “supposed” to look like.

It turns out living in the present has its perks, including no longer having to adhere to crushingly rigid social and gender norms. We still have a long way to go, but in general it has become more okay to be who we are instead of following prescribed roles. Men can be primary caregivers, and women can be primary breadwinners. Men can be soft-spoken and abhor violence, and Ronda Rousey is a household name.

LGBTQ people are especially left out when it comes to chivalry. If you’re not part of a heterosexual gender binary, it’s hard to see how some of these rules are supposed to apply or make sense. Even if you are cis and straight, the rules of chivalry have become muddied.

Does it indicate a lack of respect if a man doesn’t stand when a butch lesbian enters a room?

What about a trans woman? Is there a threshold for how feminine she is perceived before you pull a chair out for her?
How old does a man have to be before giving up your seat on the bus is welcome instead of emasculating? If a young man with a cane, a female athlete, and a mumbling bag lady all get to a door at once, who’s responsible for holding it and who should go through first? Does this question even matter if it’s an automatic door (that vile aperture, creator of anarchy and vehicle of the breakdown of everything we as a society hold dear, that is, the importance of proper-door-holding proceedings)?

Despite what manners websites may say, there aren’t actually any solid answers because if chivalry were solely about consideration and good behavior it wouldn’t be so damn confusing. People wouldn’t be so pissed off if it were simply about being kind to each other. (Well, maybe pissed off differently.)

In some ways, chivalry is a way to reinforce gender roles under the guise of refined behavior. But we simply don’t have the same expectations anymore. A man picking up the tab for a date made sense when women’s earnings were severely limited (instead of just limited.) Opening doors and providing a steadying arm made sense when even sensible women’s wear was difficult to move in. Men providing jackets, holding umbrellas, and carrying heavy bags made sense when male physical weakness, especially compared to women, was a great source of shame. Making all the rules for courtship about straight people made sense when queerness was unspeakable.

I’m not saying that we live in a magical, accepting world or that the inequalities that made chivalrous behavior make sense are gone. That much is obvious, and perhaps that’s why there are those who insist it’s still necessary. But as we focus more on achieving equality and we open our eyes to the full spectrum of humanity instead of just “respectable” straight people, the rituals that soften inequality and shore-up outdated ideas have begun to fall away. That’s a good thing.

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